Thursday, April 15, 2010

Has SITS Day Commenting Sunken to a New Low?

Firstly, I'll admit that I've been checking in with SITS a lot less frequently as of late, partly due to lack of time; partly due to other reasons. But that's not the point of this post.

I visited this morning and clicked through to the featured blogger. It was the blog of a woman who recently lost her son after only a few hours of his life. It featured pictures of her and her husband and the last photo was of her newborn's tiny feet.

I am not going to link to either site I mention as my goal is NOT to sensationalize anything.

I guess I was just shocked when I went to leave a comment with the featured blogger and noticed that the two comments above me were Happy SITS day!

On a post of this sensitive nature. Happy SITS day - and that's all - srsly????? I struggled with what to write. I am horrible with knowing what to say in situations like this. Which leads me to think; if you really don't know what to say, Don't Comment rather than leaving "Happy SITS Day!" But that's just my opinion.

39 comments:

Kathie @ Just a Happy Housewife said...

I've seen loads of comments like that in the past and others that shamelessly promote their own blog or giveaway in the comments. That blogroll has become about self-promotion, in my opinion. Just one of many reasons I stopped following SITS.

Jen said...

Totally agree. That is HORRIBLE!! Hey, they have to get their blog out there any way they can, right? Stupid.

Michelle Pixie said...

Oh I couldn't agree more! I hardly ever check in over there anymore because it really just frustrates me to no end...and I always love when they stop by and leave a comment saying "Stopping by from SITS come check out my place!" Um no thanks! If they can't be bothered to read what I write I think the last thing I have time to do is hop on over to your place. It just exhausts me. Don't get me wrong I love finding new people to read but please don't come to my place and leave a total generic comment, if you can't think of something authentic just don't feel obligated with "Thanks for stopping by my place!".

Rebecca Jo said...

Happy SITS day!

Rebecca Jo said...

...just kidding... I couldnt resist!...

I'll see that sometimes too & think, "WHAT?"... I think people have it copied, ready to paste. Those are the people who just want to have people following them - not caring what anyone has to say.. sad really

Jayne said...

A while back I became a little jaded with the self-promotion and sometimes meaningless comments that make it obvious the commenter is just 'scent marking' the comments boxes in order to get their name out there. That is definitely sinking to a new low - makes it so obvious that they haven't even bothered to read the post.

Kristina P. said...

This is actually the reason I don't do SITS anymore. I feel like very few people actually bother to read the posts.

Merry said...

I have come to hate that part of it too. I've also noticed that often I will visit blogs on the linky list & I will be the first person to comment from SITS. This isn't the person right before me but WAY up the list. I get the feeling people want their visits but don't want to visit anyone else.

Maureen said...

This is the reason I left SITS. I was welcomed early when I started it up, and thought, oh that's nice. But then several months later I was welcomed again, by some of the same people. One person I had even won a giveaway from not long before, and she was just like... welcome to SITS. That's it. Lame.

Amanda said...

That makes me crazy. At least you took the time to offer up something from the heart Carma. Wow! That poor devastated mom...

I need to stumble this!

~Kristen~ said...

This is exactly why I have been so disgusted with SITS and many of the people there. It is all about shameless self=promotion and nothing else.

Janna Bee said...

Woah controversial... I totally agree. When it was my SITS day, I commented back to all those that looked at my featured posts, but people that left that kind of message got my copy and paste "thank you" message. Those that left something real, I did comment back on. (I agree with all of the comments here too.)

Feeling Fit With Dana said...

I agree completely. I thought the whole point of SITS was to find cool blogs you enjoy and to leave meaningful comments. I always try to comment on what the blogger is talking about. It's especially hard when it is a sad situation or you just don't know how to respond!

Joy said...

Ugh that is really gross.

Aunt Juicebox said...

Ugh. I agree. If I can't think of anything in a situation like that, I'm more likely just to say sorry for your loss. That's just terrible.

Jill of All Trades said...

I so totally agree and when my reader stopped giving me updates anyway I stopped reading so, easy decision to stop.

Anne said...

I couldn't agree more. Honestly? I think SITS is kind of a joke... what all of your other commenters said is true. It's about shameless self-promotion and meaningless commenting. Not for me.

Tracie said...

Gah! I see those 'Stopping by from SITs' comments everywhere and they are so lame. But in this case it's worse than lame. Very insensitive and rude! (IMHO)

PS I'm not a SITS member.

Randi Troxell said...

i 100% agree..

no doubt...

Salt said...

OMG I could not agree with you more. At first I wasn't even going to leave a comment, honestly, because I knew that people were going to be in there with the cheerful HAPPY SITS DAYs.

I ended up leaving her something heartfelt, but the whole thing was just very bizarre.

Unknown Mami said...

I'm with you.

Date Girl said...

Thank you thank you for posting this. I'm having so much trouble with the SITS day thing in general. While it has brought me some great blog visitors, more than not, I get crap comments that just say "stopping by from SITS" and they don't even bother to read my post. That bugs me, but to do that to the sensitive featured blogger today? That's just downright cold. I cried when I read it this morning, beautifully sad post.
It just shows you that a lot of people out there just want to comment to get their links on your site. Sickens me...thanks for always posting relevant comments! I know you read my posts and I appreciate it!!

Mommy, I'm Home said...

How absolutely and utterly tasteless. What in the world is wrong with people??????

Anonymous said...

I agree that cut and paste comments are lame. I also think that they idea behind SITS is a good one, but as it has grown some of the "culture" wasn't passed on to the newbies.

I often notice cut and paste comments from lots of bloggers and not just SITS commenters, you know the ones... "great post" "cute picture" "awesome blog."

I guess maybe the best thing to do is to keep setting the example and giving comments and attention to the people who deserve it.

Catherine- Evolving Mommy
(My phone wouldn't let me sign in so I had to go anonymous.)

Kristin said...

I've been a terrible SITS commenter as of late. I've just been so swamped...but I would def rather not comment at all rather than leave a generic comment that clearly shows you didn't read the post.

mac said...

Ok, I'm a guy, I had to look it up.

It seems to me that that comment is the complete lack if support!

Is it just about how many comments one can leave? About how many followers one can gather?
If that's it, count me out!

I like to actually know what the writer is thinking or feeling...weird, huh?

Lisa said...

I stopped the SITS thing a while back because of the comments normally left. This one your telling about beats them all. I feel for the lady with the loss. :(

Alicia said...

i hear ya lady...you know, i pop in to SITS every now and again because i like to find new blogs and all... but i don't do the roll call anymore...but man...that's rough. that poor lady...

Laffylady said...

Wow I thought that had a good reputation..I dont know too much about it..That is sad and its great you brought light to it...Carma..you da best..!

Tiffany said...

I wrote Happy SITS day...but then left additional words of what I hope were comfort. I did notice thta her featured posts didn't have very many comments...better to say nothing than something ridiculous like JUST Happy Sits day, I guess. I went and commented on every post and hope that it brought her a smile.

McVal said...

The reader didn't even read it! Sad. But yeah the above comments are right, the reader was just trying to get their name on the commenting list.
My mom always said, if you don't have something nice (or in this case appropriate) to say, then don't say anything at all.
I just haven't had time to go check SITS out since MY SITS day last month. It took me 3 weeks, yes 3 weeks to get back to all my commentors, even the ones that just said Happy SITS day. I'm lame...

gianna said...

I'm so clueless! What is SITS day?

Kristen said...

You are so right...and yes, it needed to be said! Way to go!

Lucy said...

Honestly, I stopped doing SITS, I tried it and made no real connections. I found people did not read my blog. They hopped on and said, just that, 'Happy Sits day' or dropping by from Sits. I am not desperate for comments. I write for me and I want comments that interact. I leave comments of interaction, that are sincere and let a blogger know I have read their post. How, sad to write such a comment when a person has poured out their heart.

buffalodick said...

Acknowledge, and make a non-comment..

Crystal Escobar said...

yeah, I agree. It's almost as though they didn't even read what her blog was about. I went through and read some of the old ones, and I was almost in tears. I even had a dream last night that I had a baby and I was worried for the babies life and wondering where the doctor was. She mentioned that she wondered if there was anything she could have done, and felt guilty that perhaps things could have been different. The doctor wasn't there when the baby was delivered which was strange. Anyway, such a sad and I couldn't imagine anything worse happening.
I just read through all your comments, and I have to say, I do agree with a lot of them. I've been feeling the same way with SITS these days, wondering if it's even worth my time. I think that it's possibly attracting the wrong kind of people. I'm looking for people who REALLY want to read my blog. Ugh, and I HATE! those "stopping by from SITS" comments. So annoying. I NEVER visit those ones anymore because I hate that they didn't even bother to read what I wrote.

Cheryl said...

Glad you posted this. I agree with what everyone's said here.

Bethany said...

Wow, that's really sad :( I actually stopped doing SITS as I was told I would be featured in 6 months, 10 went by and nothing...plus I just couldn't keep up and felt really overwhelmed so I stopped. I did find a few neat blogs to read through it that I still read but I'm done. :)

WhiteSockGirl aka The Fabulous Bitch said...

I am not surprised cause some, if not most, of the SITs commenters are just like that. They do not read posts, they are just link droppers in search of virtual toilets. And they tend to mistake perfectly good honest blogs as their virtual dumping places. Not to be tolerated. I deleted those Happy whatever and Stopping by from whatever comments. I got off the SITs train a long time ago. Not worthy of my precious time and effort.

@Bethany: And you would have probably had to wait another 6-8 months or more cause SITs is mostly about clique(s) and favouritism. My opinion. I waited for more than a year and I finally gave up when I realized that people who joined long long after me got their FB days while I was still doing the loyal puppy thing patiently.

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